I struggled with what to write about today. I considered baby stories (still not sleeping! I’m really tired!); I pondered knitting anxieties (seaming! Argh!). But I kept coming back to one stark fact: I’m not blogging about Proposition 8. And I’m not doing it because I don’t have to. It doesn’t affect me. Not personally. My marriage is still safe. No one’s angling to take it away, or prevent me from doing it again tomorrow if I so choose. Why should I talk about Prop 8 when I could tell funny stories or put up cute baby photos instead?
Not talking about things is a privilege granted to those in unmarked categories. Not talking about racism is a privilege of being White. Not talking about sexism is a privilege of being male. And not talking about prop 8 is a privilege of being straight. But here’s the thing: I’m not straight. My romantic relationships before I met my husband? Were with women. One of whom I stayed with for nearly four years. What if we had stayed together? What if I had had twins with her? In that case, you better believe I would be outraged, furious, saddened, and blogging about this every single day.* So I owe it not to someone else to talk about this, write about this, and generally make a stink, but to myself. To myself and to my children, who might come home one day with same-sex partners. Who might one day want to marry them.
I won’t write about it every day, because did I mention cute baby photos? But I will be bringing it up again. And again. Until the damn thing’s fixed.
Faith is blogging about it regularly, and has details on local Los Angeles protests and boycotts.
Here’s a website with more information on protests and actions.
And here, if you haven’t yet watched it, is Keith Olbermann’s excellent rant.
*Well, okay, I’d probably still be putting up cute baby photos sometimes.
Phantom Scribbler said,
November 13, 2008 @ 6:04 pm
You’re a rock star, Uccellina. And I will take the same vow. Again and again until this damn thing is FIXED. For me. For my kids. For all of us.
lichen said,
November 14, 2008 @ 10:16 am
I posted this same video on myspace a couple days ago, well said Keith.
Lookydaddy.com also puts it very well in his latest post.
Two steps forward and one step back, but onward we go.
Red Diabla said,
November 14, 2008 @ 3:22 pm
That is a most impressive rant. Too bad the people who NEED to watch it are busy doing something really useful. Like, uh, helping the divorce rate be over 50%. You know, protecting the SANCTITY of marriage and all.
Mom said,
November 14, 2008 @ 4:37 pm
Just signed a MoveOn.org petition to overturn Prop 8. We do what we can from CT.